WHAT ROLE DOES A BEST FRIEND PLAY IN PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS…

Alright let me explain here what i mean. Best friends, are in no way a reflection of the amount of time you have known a person, instead, the amount of trust, comfortability, and what you put into the friendship. a best friend means a lot to people, we open up to them more than anyone else, and know they will understand us no matter what and we always trust them back and value everything they have to say. They want whats best for you and you want whats best for them.
Now, what happens when you get into a relationship? Do they continue that same role, do you continue to put as much emphasis on them as you did before you found a new love interest? Usually theres an even mix. nothing has to change. So, what happens when you find someone you really like and you start seeing them, nothing serious. but, then you and your best friend talk and they start saying stuff about your new interest when they hardly know them, and other information from other people about the new love. i know its your best friend and you listen to them and trust them, but what would you do? would you just call it quits and tell your new interest that its over. plain and simple that its over, best friends want whats best and thats it so your done. idk, to be honest, i could confront the person and see whats up. let them tell their side and see what would happen. people could change though for real. like we cant take peoples faults of the past and hold it against them. the example i just gave you is real, so dont think i made it up, it inspired this post. i thought it was a lil to much to be honest. i trust my friends, my best friends, but sometimes when it comes to a personal relationship a person you want to be close with in that intimate way, you have to take a chance, like i said, confront them, ask question, find out their intentions, give them a chance, and if you feel you still need to leave then do so. but if not then fine your done. i dont think it would be a diss against a friend either, you hear them out and act on it. nothing wrong with that. anyway i guess thats all i have to say about that for now. what are your thoughts on it all?

ideas.

i always have a lot of ideas in my head, an idea to write about, or idea to film, take a picture, build, cook/bake, or just anything. mostly my ideas come to me late at night when im doing the most thinking, on top of all the thinking i do all day anyway haha. i've been lacking in my writing, however, i usually wouldn't care. but, lately, i've found myself missing it so much. so with this post i guess ill try to gain some of that empty feeling back.

there's been many topics i have wanted to write about, but have just been so lazy and out of it that i just haven't mustered up the time to sit here and write. so here goes nothing, ipod on shuffle and head in the right place.

why is ANYTHING a person does always on trial with everyone else?! seriously, mostly speaking in terms of family and friends, and even times people we don't know [aka society] its like a person can't take a shit nowadays without someone else's approval. why should an individuals [and yes we are ALL individuals, we all have our own minds and thought proccess'] choices be ANY concern to anyone else, period? i know it gets hard at times with family, traditions, not wanting to disrespect or go against certain values. but we as a society act so strange and hurtful at times when a person decides to step outside the circle we have so carefully drawn for them. we are so afraid of change that the slightest difference causes so much chaos, yet we fail to remember that at the end of the day that change rarely effects any of us personally, other than giving us the "stank" face saying: "wtf are they thinking?", as we then move on with our day. come on, think about it, half the people in the world would not be where they are now, if they weren't so afraid to think for themselves. we grow up to value what our parents feed us through the years, then when we develop our own minds, we are told that it is wrong and to not go against it. why do we do that to our future? why do we keep saying no, when we should allow our kids [anyone for that matter] to think and feel and experience life in their own way. i understand we want to look out for them and guide them, yes thats one thing. but to completely take away what could possibly make them their own individual, its just wrong. we all have a choice, always, to take that away so early, its just screaming for trouble. its not right, but society will never understand that. and it takes the people who aren't afraid to step outside the lines to be the ones who turn out that much greater, to show everyone else, it can be done and not mean were not human anymore. because above everything else, were still all the same inside. some just have that drive to show it more than others. no matter who you are, who you like, what you do, how you do it, remember you can never be wrong for the person you know you are. fuck what everyone else thinks, stick to your heart and you'll be just fine.


"Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen."


-saurus